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    09/03/2006

    欲望城市

    读到一篇文章《上海,今夜请将我埋葬》,写得犀利,也有些极端,但的确反映了一些真实情况。
    生活在上海已经快四年了,从西到东,从长乐到德平,从法租界到张江高科……
    最近一直在回味一位长者的忠告:你能做的,只有去适应环境。
    这是一个物欲横流的社会,我一直彷徨在她的边缘,尝试去抗拒旋涡巨大的引力……
    14/02/2006

    水样情人节

    昨天,
    同事A问我,你们有什么安排啊?
    我还故意装傻:谁?什么安排?
    回曰,当然是你和你BF在情人节有什么安排了啊!
    呵呵,可能就是吃顿饭呗。
     
    其实谁不知道这一天啊?早就想着呢,可是一个人想有什么用啊,这道理很简单,叫什么来着?
    一个巴掌拍不响啊~~
    A又说了,我和我BF说明天情人节了啊。他应声,真讨厌,又要过节了(晕)
    我说他可以提前送你花,然后当天看个电影或送个非时令的礼物(出自去年农场主追小猪的套路,提前两天送玫瑰,当天送了个记忆棒),A说去年倒是这个样子的,不过她BF说今年花都提前涨价了啊~SIGH~~(其实他们是婚姻进行式中)
     
    大家可以感觉到了……啊,哎,中国的男人怎么都是这样泥?真是羡慕那些西方的小姐太太,男人们进门亲爱的,出门我爱你的,还想方设法地找纪念日哄你开心;中国的男人却很吝啬,不肯把爱说出口,不会在适当的时候宠爱自己的宝贝,为什么非要醉过才知酒浓,爱过才知情重呢?不要等到失去了才追悔自责,感情这东西,越是到后来才越要珍惜的嘛!
     
    同事G小姐早晨戴着情人节礼物(亮闪闪的K金项链),下午静悄悄收到一捧玫瑰……晚上要告诉他,肯定同时还要说其实我不在乎和什么要来的不如给来的好,女人真是虚(伪)虚(荣)的可以啊!!
     
    去年的情人节我已经不太记得有没有收到什么,好象还是有玫瑰的,不过以后被遗忘的概率还是很大的,如果决定和一个传统的中国男人生活,还是不要有太强记忆力的好。
     
    做个记号,明年不再提醒他,如果忘了就#$%&@!
    28/01/2006

    真 善 美

    碌碌无为了一年,换来9天的长假.终于可以拣起我的老本行,安安静静的思考了,身心的疲惫还是无法阻止思维的跳跃,如果说人类一思考,上帝就发笑的话,那么,现在,我的上帝应该开心的不得了^o^
     
    泪眼朦胧地读完了《北京故事》,半年前看过了电影版<蓝宇>。看着结尾的那段描写,回忆起片尾黄品源的<你怎么舍得我难过>,不禁潸然泪下...
     
    “滚!!你们这些活着的和死去的人都看着吧!!我再也不用掩饰、隐瞒,我要守在他的身边!!!你们可以当众高歌你们的爱情,搂着你们的爱人亲吻,难道我连为我死去的爱人伤心都不行吗?!!我看着他的胸口,那宽阔的胸膛,我曾无数次亲吻、抚摸...”
    “滚!!你们是想笑话我吗?笑吧!! 我不能就这么离开我的爱人,我要抱着他,他肯定需要我!我要用力抓紧他,要让他溶化在我的手中...他没有死!他可能一会儿就醒过来,他说过让我今晚去接他!!!对了!他早上让我吻他,他很少这样,他一定是暗示我什么...可我却吻得那么不认真... 我怎么那么愚蠢!!我凑向他的脸,我要在那血肉模糊的一团上补上那个吻... 我终于被巨大的力量拉起,离他越来越远...我不甘心!!可毫无办法、无能为力........
     

    原来,真诚的爱,永远都可以找到共鸣,无论是异性还是同性,无论是人类还是非人类...只有抛开世俗的眼光和主流的认同,不去理会那些所谓的复杂,简单点单纯些,才能感受真爱的美妙和甘甜,正如KINGKONG对ANN的那份真诚和执着也深深感动了我一样.为什么只有真空中才会有如此单纯的化学反应?空气中的杂质会影响化学变化的速度和进程,甚至会导致严重的后果.所以这两个作品都巧妙的安排了一些非主流因素在里面来暗示其理想状态,看来,简单的让人快乐,但也容易被复杂误解和伤害;随心而活固然是幸福,却无法避免世俗的排挤和压迫,的确比较艰难,但能被简单的男人爱着,一生何求?

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    17/01/2006

    触目惊心

    北京一个33岁的CONSULTANT喜添千金后意识到有必要进行财务管理,以下是他的2006年一月日常支出列表:
     
    月度经常性开销预算列表:

    Expense Items                                        Sub(RMB)
    House related                                                 3,000 
    House Service Fee                                             600 
    Gas, electricity and water                                    600 
    Heating                                                            700
    Tel fee                                                             150 
    House improvement                                           150 
    Ayi monthly salary                                              800 
    Car related                                                        930 
    Parking fee                                                         80 
    Gas fee                                                            250 
    Maintenance fee allocation monthly                      100 
    tax/insurance allocation monthly                           500 
    Baby related                                                   1,500 
    Daily stuffs                                                      1,500 
    Insurance Fee                                                    -   
    Household related                                            3,000 
    Daily stuffs(food)                                            2,500 
    Special items                                                      500 
    Entertainment related                                       1,000 
    Family dinner out                                              1,000 
    Movie or others                                                   -   
    My personal related                                           1,300 
    Meal with colleagues/friends                                  500 
    Coffee                                                               100 
    Clothes                                                              500 
    Personal stuffs                                                    100 
    Books/music/DVD                                                100 
    My wife's personal related                                     750 
    Meal with colleagues/friends                                  -   
    Personal stuffs                                                     250 
    Clothes                                                               500 
    books/music/DVD                                                  -   
    Travel & Outing related                                         500 
    Weekend outing                                                  500 
    Abroad travel                                                       -   
    Sub Total  11,980                                            11,980 
    Contingency (10% of total expense)  1,198          1,198 
    Monthly Sub total                                        13,178   
     

     
    人家这还是有房有车有老婆有孩子等大件全部齐备之后的支出,GOSH~~~~~
    29/11/2005

    物有所不足,智有所不明(Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.)

    苹果电脑的CEO斯蒂夫·乔布斯在今年6月12日斯坦福大学毕业典礼上的演讲 (域外的朋友给我发来苹果电脑的CEO斯蒂夫·乔布斯在今年6月12日斯坦福大学毕业典礼上的演讲,读后令人不禁动容,其文并无华丽之色,也无英文演讲范例中惯用的排比。遂将全文译出,标题为译者所加,刊登时有删节)。

    (斯坦福)是世界上最好的大学之一,今天能参加各位的毕业典礼,我备感荣幸。(尖叫声)我从来没有从大学毕业,说句实话,此时算是我离大学毕业最近的一刻。(笑声)今天,我想告诉你们我生命中的三个故事,并非什么了不得的大事件,只是三个小故事而已。

    第一个故事,是关于串起生命中的点点滴滴。(原文为“connecting the dots”指一种小游戏:把标有序列号的点连起来,就构成一幅图画——译注)

    我在里德大学呆了6个月就退学了,但之后仍作为旁听生混了18个月后才最终离开。我为什么要退学呢?

    故事要从我出生之前开始说起。我的生母是一名年轻的未婚妈妈,当时她还是一所大学的在读研究生,于是决定把我送给其他人收养。她坚持我应该被一对念过大学的夫妇收养,所以在我出生的时候,她已经为我被一个律师和他的太太收养做好了所有的准备。但在最后一刻,这对夫妇改了主意,决定收养一个女孩。侯选名单上的另外一对夫妇,也就是我的养父母,在一天午夜接到了一通电话:“有一个不请自来的男婴,你们想收养吗?”他们回答:“当然想。”事后,我的生母才发现我的养母根本就没有从大学毕业,而我的养父甚至连高中都没有毕业,所以她拒绝签署最后的收养文件,直到几个月后,我的养父母保证会把我送到大学,她的态度才有所转变。

    17年之后,我真上了大学。但因为年幼无知,我选择了一所和斯坦福一样昂贵的大学,(了大学。但因为年幼无知,我选择了一所和斯坦福一样昂贵的大学,(笑声)我的父母都是工人阶级,他们倾其所有资助我的学业。在6个月之后,我发现自己完全不知道这样念下去究竟有什么用。当时,我的人生漫无目标,也不知道大学对我能起到什么帮助,为了念书,还花光了父母毕生的积蓄,所以我决定退学。我相信车到山前必有路。当时作这个决定的时候非常害怕,但现在回头去看,这是我这一生所作出的最正确的决定之一。(笑声)从我退学那一刻起,我就再也不用去上那些我毫无兴趣的必修课了,我开始旁听那些看来比较有意思的科目。

    这件事情做起来一点都不浪漫。因为没有自己的宿舍,我只能睡在朋友房间的地板上;可乐瓶的押金是5分钱,我把瓶子还回去好用押金买吃的;在每个周日的晚上,我都会步行7英里穿越市区,到Hare Krishna教堂吃一顿大餐,我喜欢那儿的食物。我跟随好奇心和直觉所做的事情,事后证明大多数都是极其珍贵的经验。

    我举一个例子:那个时候,里德大学提供了全美国最好的书法教育。整个校园的每一张海报,每一个抽屉上的标签,都是漂亮的手写体。由于已经退学,不用再去上那些常规的课程,于是我选择了一个书法班,想学学怎么写出一手漂亮字。在这个班上,我学习了各种衬线和无衬线字体,如何改变不同字体组合之间的字间距,以及如何做出漂亮的版式。那是一种科学永远无法捕捉的充满美感、历史感和艺术感的微妙,我发现这太有意思了。

    当时,我压根儿没想到这些知识会在我的生命中有什么实际运用价值;但是10年之后,当我们的设计第一款Macintosh电脑的候,这些东西全派上了用场。我把它们全部设计进了 Mac,这是第一台可以排出好看版式的电脑。如果当时我大学里没有旁听这门课程的话,Mac就不会提供各种字体和等间距字体。自从视窗系统抄袭了Mac以后,(鼓掌大笑)所有的个人电脑都有了这些东西。如果我没有退学,我就不会去书法班旁听,而今天的个人电脑大概也就不会有出色的版式功能。当然我在念大学的那会儿,不可能有先见之明,把那些生命中的点点滴滴都串起来;但10年之后再回头看,生命的轨迹变得非常清楚。

    再强调一次,你不可能充满预见地将生命的点滴串联起来;只有在你回头看的时候,你才会发现这些点点滴滴之间的联系。所以,你要坚信,你现在所经历的将在你未来的生命中串联起来。你不得不相信某些东西,你的直觉,命运,生活,因缘际会……正是这种信仰让我不会失去希望,它让我的人生变得与众不同。


    我的第二个故事是关于爱与失去。

    我是幸运的,在年轻的时候就知道了自己爱做什么。在我20岁的时候,就和沃兹在我父母的车库里开创了苹果电脑公司。我们勤奋工作,只用了10年的时间,苹果电脑就从车库里的两个小伙子扩展成拥有4000名员工,价值达到20亿美元的企业。而在此之前的一年,我们刚推出了我们最好的产品Macintosh电脑,当时我刚过而立之年。然后,我就被炒了鱿鱼。一个人怎么可以被他所创立的公司解雇呢?(笑声)这么说吧,随着苹果的成长,我们请了一个原本以为很能干的家伙和我一起管理这家公司,在头一年左右,他干得还不错,但后来,我们对公司未来的前景出现了分歧,于是我们之间出现了矛盾。由于公司的董事会站在他那一边,所以在我30岁的时候,就被踢出了局。我失去了一直贯穿在我整个成年生活的重心,打击是毁灭性的。

    在头几个月,我真不知道要做些什么。我觉得我让企业界的前辈们失望了,我失去了传到我手上的指挥棒。我遇到了戴维·帕卡德(普惠的创办人之一——译注)和鲍勃·诺伊斯(英特尔的创办人之一——译注),我向他们道歉,因为我把事情搞砸了。我成了人人皆知的失败者,我甚至想过逃离硅谷。但曙光渐渐出现,我还是喜欢我做过的事情。在苹果电脑发生的一切丝毫没有改变我,一个比特(bit)都没有。虽然被抛弃了,但我的热忱不改。我决定重新开始。

    我当时没有看出来,但事实证明,我被苹果开掉是我这一生所经历过的最棒的事情。成功的沉重被凤凰涅槃的轻盈所代替,每件事情都不再那么确定,我以自由之躯进入了我整个生命当中最有创意的时期。

    在接下来的5年里,我开创了一家叫做NeXT的公司,接着是一家名叫Pixar的公司,并且接识了后来成为我妻子的曼妙女郎。Pixar制作了世界上第一部全电脑动画电影《玩具总动员》,现在这家公司是世界上最成功的动画制作公司之一。(掌声)后来经历一系列的事件,苹果买下了NeXT,于是我又回到了苹果,我们在NeXT研发出的技术在推动苹果复兴的核心动力。我和劳伦斯也拥有了美满的家庭。

    我非常肯定,如果没有被苹果炒掉,这一切都不可能在我身上发生。对于病人来说,良药总是苦口。生活有时候就像一块板砖拍向你的脑袋,但不要丧失信心。热爱我所从事的工作,是一直支持我不断前进的惟一理由。你得找出你的最爱,对工作如此,对爱人亦是如此。工作将占据你生命中相当大的一部分,从事你认为具有非凡意义的工作,方能给你带来真正的满足感。而从事一份伟大工作的惟一方法,就是去热爱这份工作。如果你到现在还没有找到这样一份工作,那么就继续找。不要安于现状,当万事了于心的时候,你就会知道何时能找到。如同任何伟大的浪漫关系一样,伟大的工作只会在岁月的酝酿中越陈越香。所以,在你终有所获之前,不要停下你寻觅的脚步。不要停下。


    我的第三个故事是关于死亡。

    在17 岁的时候,我读过一句格言,好像是:“如果你把每一天都当成你生命里的最后一天,你将在某一天发现原来一切皆在掌握之中。”(笑声)这句话从我读到之日起,就对我产生了深远的影响。在过去的33年里,我每天早晨都对着镜子问自己:“如果今天是我生命中的末日,我还愿意做我今天本来应该做的事情吗?”当一连好多天答案都否定的时候,我就知道做出改变的时候到了。

    提醒自己行将入土是我在面临人生中的重大抉择时,最为重要的工具。

    因为所有的事情——外界的期望、所有的尊荣、对尴尬和失败的惧怕——在面对死亡的时候,都将烟消云散,只留下真正重要的东西。在我所知道的各种方法中,提醒自己即将死去是避免掉入畏惧失去这个陷阱的最好办法。人赤条条地来,赤条条地走,没有理由不听从你内心的呼唤。

    大约一年前,我被诊断出癌症。在早晨7:30我做了一个检查,扫描结果清楚地显示我的胰脏出现了一个肿瘤。我当时甚至不知道胰脏究竟是什么。医生告诉我,几乎可以确定这是一种不治之症,顶多还能活3至6个月。大夫建议我回家,把诸事安排妥当,这是医生对临终病人的标准用语。这意味着你得把你今后10年要对你的子女说的话用几个月的时间说完;这意味着你得把一切都安排妥当,尽可能减少你的家人在你身后的负担;这意味着向众人告别的时间到了。

    我整天都想着诊断结果。那天晚上做了一个切片检查,医生把一个内诊镜从我的喉管伸进去,穿过我的胃进入肠道,将探针伸进胰脏,从肿瘤上取出了几个细胞。我打了镇静剂,但我的太太当时在场,她后来告诉我说,当大夫们从显微镜下观察了细胞组织之后,都哭了起来,因为那是一非常罕见的,可以通过手术治疗的胰脏癌。我接受了手术,现在已经康复了。

    这是我最接近死亡的一次,我希望在随后的几十年里,都不要有比这一次更接近死亡的经历。在经历了这次与死神擦肩而过的经验之后,死亡对我来说只是一项有效的判断工具,并且只是一个纯粹的理性概念时相比,我能够更肯定地告诉你们以下事实:没人想死;即使想去天堂的人,也是希望能活着进去。(笑声)死亡是我们每个人的人生终点站,没人能够成为例外。生命就是如此,因为死亡很可能是生命最好的造物,它是生命更迭的媒介,送走耋耄老者,给新生代让路。现在你们还是新生代,但不久的将来你们也将逐渐老去,被送出人生的舞台。很抱歉说得这么富有戏剧性,但生命就是如此。

    你们的时间有限,所以不要把时间浪费在别人的生活里。不要被条条框框束缚,否则你就生活在他人思考的结果里。不要让他人的观点所发出的噪音淹没你内心的声音。最为重要的是,要有遵从你的内心和直觉的勇气,它们可能已知道你其实想成为一个什么样的人。其他事物都是次要的。

    在我年轻的时候,有一本非常棒的杂志叫《全球目录》(The Whole Earth Catalog),它被我们那一代人奉为圭臬。这本杂志的创办人是一个叫斯图尔特·布兰德的家伙,他住在Menlo Park,距离这儿不远。他把这本杂志办得充满诗意。那是在60年代末期,个人电脑、桌面发排系统还没有出现,所以出版工具只有打字机、剪刀和宝丽来相机。这本杂志有点像印在纸上的Google,但那是在Google出现的35年前;它充满了理想色彩,内容都是些非常好用的工具和了不起的见解。

    斯图尔特和他的团队做了几期《全球目录》,快无疾而终的时候,他们出版了最后一期。那是在70年代中期,我当时处在你们现在的年龄。在最后一期的封底有一张清晨乡间公路的照片,如果你喜欢搭车冒险旅行的话,经常会碰到的那种小路。在照片下面有一排字:物有所不足,智有所不明(Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.)这是他们停刊的告别留言。物有所不足,智有所不明。我总是以此自诩。现在,在你们毕业开始新生活的时候,我把这句话送给你们。



    This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.
    I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
    The first story is about connecting the dots.
    I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
    It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?"
    They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
    And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
    The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
    It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5 cents deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on.
    Let me give you one example:
    Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligrapher. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.
    None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
    Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
    My second story is about love and loss.
    I was lucky – I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation - the Macintosh - a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired.
    How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
    I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley.
    But something slowly began to dawn on me – I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
    I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
    During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I retuned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
    I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work.
    And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
    My third story is about death.
    When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
    Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.
    Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
    About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
    I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.
    This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades.
    Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:
    No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
    Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
    When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and Polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
    Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.
    Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
    Thank you all very much

    Steve Jobs is the CEO of Apple, which he co-founded in 1976, and Pixar, the Academy-Award-winning animation studios which he co-founded in 1986.
    Apple ignited the personal computer revolution in the 1970s with the Apple II and reinvented the personal computer in the 1980s with the Macintosh. Today, Apple continues to lead the industry in innovation with its award-winning desktop and notebook computers, OS X operating system, and iLife and professional applications. Apple is also leading the digital music revolution with its iPod portable music players and iTunes online music store.
    Pixar has created six of the most successful and beloved animated films of all time: Academy Award-winning Toy Story (1995); A Bug's Life (1998); Toy Story 2 (1999); Monsters, Inc. (2001); Academy Award-winning Finding Nemo (2003); and The Incredibles (2004). Pixar's six films have grossed more than $3 billion at the worldwide box office to date.
    Steve grew up in the apricot orchards which later became known as Silicon Valley, and still lives there with his wife and three children.

     

    29/08/2005

    长铗归来


     

    《孟子》的“梁惠王章句上·第一章”里就记载了梁惠王见到孟子的第一句话就是“叟,不远千里而来,亦将有以利吾国乎?”,叟就是老头,老头,你不远千里而来,能给我的国家带来什么好处呢?”就是现在流行的说法,不要问公司给你带来什么,要问问你给公司带来什么。 求职的时候,作为经营者非常注重你的爱好、特长和工作经历的,求职填简历的时候就时常遇到填写简历。如果你要谋个文字一职,爱好、特长最好填“写作”,如果你想谋秘书一职,爱好就要填讲究团队合作精神的“足球和篮球”,市场营销的爱好可以填“爬山”,可不能说你喜欢听音乐、爱读书一类的,因为HR们会认为你是个死读书的人或者内向的人,当然如果你寻找会计或者保管员职位另当别论。


    当然也有些很牛的求职者,采用有别于一般规则的创新手法去求职。比如战国的冯谖,齐国人,有冯谖者,贫乏不能自存,穷得一塌糊涂,就想跳槽了,在国企干的很不顺心,一工资低、二奖金少,三福利贱,四周末还加班,挣每一分钱的毛孔里都流着社会主义主人翁工人阶级的血与汗啊,于是就托人跳槽到孟尝君的利益集团。当然首先要填简历了,孟尝君问:“客何好?”答:“客无好也。”,又问:“客何能?”再答:“客无能也。”。要是我是HR,首先就把他给K掉,不过人家孟尝君识货,同时也是给他舞台,于是就笑而受之,曰:“诺”,到车间实习去吧。


    一个学过经营管理的MBA冯谖竟然要到车间实习一年,谁受得了啊?光上学的费用还是借贷来的呢,从海龟(归学回过)到海带(待岗)挣一个月1万,会破坏中国整个职业经理人的薪酬体系的,要是我会再“带”下去,坚决不接受如此侮辱。冯谖就是冯谖,在车间“居有顷”,呆了一会,就倚柱弹其剑,歌曰:“长铗归来乎,食无鱼!”,工作很清闲,无聊就用手指弹着长剑,哼起小曲来,“长剑啊咱们走吧,这里的伙食不好啊”,旁边的班长就打小报告了,老板孟尝君就说:“食之,比门下之客。”,提高伙食,相当于正式编制待遇。叫他到市场部工作。可是又过几天,复弹其铗,歌曰:“长铗归来乎,出无车!”,当然小报告又打上去了,孟尝君曰:“为之驾,比门下之车客。”,待遇相当于副经理吧,给他配辆富康车。后有顷,复弹其剑铗,歌曰:“长铗归来乎,无以为家!”,左右皆恶之,以为贪而不知足,业绩还没干出来就算了,竟然还想房子,知道青岛房价有多高吗?,再次打小报告,叫你洋墨水不服水土。可老板孟尝君好奇问了:“冯公有亲乎?”对曰:“有老母。”孟尝君使人给其食用,无使乏。孟尝君竟然把他老母也给接来了,住在二室一厅教授公寓里,于是冯谖不复歌,专心工作了。

    29/06/2005

    《最好的爱情》——安妮宝贝

     
     
    在路途上想起爱情来,觉得最好的爱情是两个人彼此做个伴。

    不要束缚,不要缠绕,不要占有,不要渴望从对方的身上挖掘到意义,那是注定要落空的东西。而应该是,我们两个人,并排站在一起,看看这个落寞的人间。 

    有两个独立的房间,各自在房间里工作。

    一起找小餐馆吃晚饭。

    散步的时候,能够有很多话说。

    拥抱在一起的时候,觉得安全。不干涉对方的任何自由,哪怕他(她)还在和旧日女(男)友联络。

    不对彼此表白,表白是变相的索取。

    很平淡,很熟悉,好像他的气味就是你自己身上的气味。

    不管何时何地,都要留给彼此距离。

    随时可以离开。

    想安静的时候,即使他在身边,也像是自己一个人。 有一致的生活品味,包括衣服,唱片,香水,食物等等。

    不太会想起对方,但累的时候,知道他(她)就是家。

    我们很容易碰到的,都是自私或者愚蠢的人。他们爱别人,只是为了证明别人能够爱自己。或者抓在手里不肯放,直到手里的东西死去。

    成熟的感情都需要付出时间去等待它的果实。但是,我们一直欠缺耐心。有谁会用10年的时间,去等一个远行的人?有谁会在10年的远行之后,依然想回头找到那个人?有些爱情因为太急于要得到它的功利,无法被证明,于是也就不得成立。

    一道受用终身的测试题

    你开着一辆车。
    在一个暴风雨的晚上。
    你经过一个车站。
    有三个人正在等公共汽车。
    一个是快要死的老人,好可怜的。
    一个是医生,他曾救过你的命,是大恩人,你做梦都想报答他。
    还有一个女人/男人,她/他是那种你做梦都想嫁/娶的人,也许错过就没有了。
    但你的车只能坐一个人,你会如何选择那?请解释一下你的理由。
    在你看下面的话之前仔细考虑一下 .
    我不知道这是不是一个对你性格的测试, 因为每一个回答都有他自己的原因。
    老人快要死了,你首先应该先救他。
    然而,每个老人最后都只能把死作为他们的终点站, 你先让那个医生上车,因为他救过你,你认为这是个好机会报答他。
    同时有些人认为一样可以在将来某个时候去报答他, 但是你一旦错过了这个机会,你可能永远不能遇到一个让你这么心动的人了。
    在200个应征者中,只有一个人被雇佣了,他并没有解释他的理由,他只是说了以下的话
    “给医生车钥匙,让他带着老人去医院,而我则留下来陪我的梦中情人一起等公车!”

    每个人我认识的人都认为以上的回答是最好的,但是其他的任何一个人(包括我在内)一开始都没想到。

    是否是因为我们从未想过要放弃我们手中已经拥有的优势(车钥匙)? 有时,如果我们能放弃一些我们的固执,狭隘,和一些优势的话,我们可能会得到更多。